Tuesday, September 25, 2007

Benjamin Franklin said...


The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

I find myself trapped on that particular hamster wheel lately, in regard to a couple of relationships I have..one with a friend one with a family member.

In the last 2 days I have had 2 light bulb moments in regard to them. Yesterday was the "aha" with my friend. I realized that our relationship is what it is because of the direction and circumstances of our lives. It's not going to change and I have decided FINALLY to let it go.

Today's "aha" is all about the relationship with a particular family member. We are where we are because she has made a choice about how she wants to live her life..and I need to let my expectations and assumptions go. I have decided to FINALLY let go.

I find myself at peace about the friendship and am working toward being at peace with my family member..that is the best I can do...



15 comments:

Serena Joy said...

I'm glad the situations have arrived at a place where you can be at peace with them. Sometimes that's enough. It has to be.
{{{HUGS}}}

leelee said...

Thanks for the HUGS! Serena...I think I needed that :-)

Yes, I am at peace with both now..and each day it is clearer and more peaceful, which is giving my head room for other pursuits and relationships..

Mayden' s Voyage said...

Leelee- I find myself in a very similar place with a friend...
"ah-ha" moments that are both illuminating, and sometimes painful- and yet- the clarity is worth the pain. It gives us resolve to do what we need to do- to move on when we are no longer helping the friend be the best person they can be, and vice versa.

Hugs from me as well- and I wish you the best. Funny how much I actually needed to read this today...
and btw- I didn't want to say so at MV, but it's my parents who are splitting. Dad reads it from time to time- and I just didn't want to go into a lot of detals.

Yet another thing I need to let go I think~

Have a beautiful day~
:)

puerileuwaite said...
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puerileuwaite said...

I think I know what you're saying. Best wishes, my friend.

Sean said...

they're hard, hard decisions to make. and what sucks is when people without all the facts want to judge you for them. but life is really too short and you can only do so much. the other person has to meet you halfway.

i try to leave the door open. but eventually i have to go on with my own life.

The Phosgene Kid said...

letting go is ok as long as you aren't clinging to the ledge of a twenty story building. Then that would be a bad decision. Hope you are ok...

Scary Monster said...

This is a good thing iffin the lightbulb is blazing away above the heads of all involved.

Stay cool and don't forget to...

STOMP.

leelee said...

Mayden - Sorry to read that it is your parents who are splitting..that can be difficult...lots of layers to peel back and deal with..I know..it happened to my folks..

The art of letting go is just that..an art..and the funny part is the more I let go, the more it comes back..as with both my aforementioned cases...my family memeber is closer than ever on HER terms..as is my friend...the beauty part is..I can now let them be on their own terms...and I can be on mine..no expectations...it feels good...I'm glad my post touched you at the right time..

HUGS!!

leelee said...

I think you do P..you usually do...

gmta (great minds think alike)

HUGS!! and I'm doing great btw..I feel free...

leelee said...

Sometimes they don't meet me halfway Sean and that's why I needed to learn to let go. It's liberating really..and yes..I leave the door open...because who knows...they may want back in ;-) and yes..life is too short..thanks friend!!

leelee said...

Phos...I'm dooing great thank you for caring about me....sweet!!

leelee said...

I STOMPED the meadowlands thursday night...with a clear head and a liberated attitude...woo hooo..thanks Scary

HUGS!!

Mayden' s Voyage said...

"the beauty part is..I can now let them be on their own terms...and I can be on mine..no expectations"-

and that is exactly what I want too~ beautifully said-
:)

leelee said...

Mayden, it takes some practice..and it's not always easy...but it's worth it.